We are energy beings, each along our independent journey while part of a collective.
Take a moment with me and picture individuals as spinning tops all independently spinning apart from each other.
Each top is a whirlwind of an individual’s thoughts, emotions, feelings, filters, triggers, responses, beliefs, goals, fears, trials and so on.
Throughout time the tops bump into each other sparking some type of interaction either positive or negative maybe even indifferent at times.
Each of these tops are spinning independently on their own journey, while being and existing as part of a collective.
Our primal computing system the brain incorporates filters, blueprints, and beliefs, projecting our perceived reality on the canvas around us.
You see, every spinning top or person is wired a certain way and their response is going to be one that is consistent with their computing projections based on their personal blueprint, filters, meaning, story and belief system among others.
Why is it then that we are so surprised offended or even caught off guard when some people respond or treat us in a certain way?
Does this resonate with you? Someone in the office or your social circle doesn’t like you, but you cannot figure out why. In your mind, you have not done anything to this person. Possibly, the two of you barely even talk. What could they possibly have against you?
You see, before the verbal dialogue even takes place, each individual’s computing system, their primal brain is processing billions of bits of information in a Mila second to deduce a response with one intention in mind, SURVIVAL.
Now back to the colleague, possibly, the individual could have had somebody else in their life with similar hair or that dressed like you and this individual left information in their brain… Now comes the projected translation and processing of you across their blueprint, through a filter of memories and an action protentional in the neurons produces triggers inside of them. All of this is happening at magnanimous processing speeds. Before you even speak a word, your mere presence can set them off or vice versa. Has anyone ever rubbed you the wrong way and you’re not quite sure why, you just would rather not be around them.
Maybe, you think you know why, but if the finger is pointing outwards, I would suggest you reflect and see what lies beneath the shadows and past the projections of perceived reality.
If you are feeling courageous, consider this possibility, you are just recording a meaning and creating a story regarding how they feel about you based on your own belief systems, projections and triggers.
What if they actually secretly like you? One option could be there is a wonderful characteristic about you that this person wishes they had in themselves and being around you only illuminates their feeling of vulnerability, the shadows, triggering inside of them one of the two basic human fears, that they are not enough. [we all have them!]
Possibly, their response towards you, once processed in your computing system evokes an emotion and triggers within you the other basic human fear that you will not be loved.
The two foundational human fears at the bottom of it all are:
1. We are not enough
2. We will not be loved
Primal collective fears exists and one in specific is that something is out to eat us!
Now in reflection; if you consider this massive computing device the brain, with primal instincts of survival, influenced by the basic human fears, projecting reality around us and charged by emotions [ions in motion].
Should we really be that shocked… Why can’t we all just get along?
Carl Jung, a psycho-analyst and the father of “Shadow Work”; teaches in detail how humans can illuminate the shadows or hidden areas for growth in each other. For example, when we are expanding into our full potential or fullness of light we can bring out “the haters” and vice versa.
We have all hated on someone at some point in time at no fault to them.
Regardless of what the reason might be, the point is, that their behavior has nothing to do with you. Yet how often do we make other people’s issues about us.
Let’s look at another scenario. Maybe you have a boss, somebody in authority or in charge of a committee that rules by being condescending, belittling or with angry fits. An individual that uses those forms of communication or tactics to govern will do so regardless of who interacts with them. Therefore, it has nothing to do with you and is not all about you.
We are individuals and at the same time part of a collective. Discoveries are showing that not only do we have our own personal shadows, but we have shadows as a collective, and generational trauma can be passed down.
Behavior therapists are learning that the grandchildren of holocaust survivors also can exhibit ptsd like traumatic emotional stressors even though they themselves were not there personally experiencing the horrific events of their grandparents.
Furthermore, remembering that as a collective, we hold within us, on a cellular level, the fear of “being eaten”, as humans were hunted for food in primitive societies.
When we understand this concept of projections and the shadow, we can let go of offense and be free of outside added drama, emotional stresses and added triggers.
Try keeping this information in consideration, the next time you come across these scenarios before you default to your primal human nature and say something that you might later regret or react to a trigger.
As humans, we are only reacting to the stimuli that has traveled through one of our filters, past our blueprint, processed in this primal computing system designed to keep us alive and running from danger “fight or flight response”, stimulating emotion, setting off the trigger and generating a response. Introspection and Reflection The next time you see someone having an emotional response, before you counter that response with an emotional trigger of your own, picture them as a top spinning on their own journey of life, as are you, both part of the collective. One option could be to give them space and let them work it out within themselves. See it for what it is with this new perspective of awareness. Take responsibility and accountability for your personal actions, connect with your breath, balance yourself, find your inner peace and spin along. Follow this link for our Brain Health VIP body scan guided meditation to assist you in maintaining a balanced, calm state.